Bed time means something different to me than it does to my retired groom. Trying to keep my eyes open means bedtime to me. His bedtime is by the clock. Tonight he’s been asleep since 8:10 pm. When I wake him and say let’s go to bed, he says he not going to bed at 8:15. Its 9:15. I’m going up to bed. I’m not sure what time the clock has to reach before he agrees it’s bedtime but sure he will wake me when he gets into bed and then I’ll know tonights bedtime. Mine is pretty consistent. I like to get into bed before the sandman arrives.