Seems to change our togetherness behaviors.  One is left alone to take care of the homefront while the other travels and takes care of family responsibilities. As our time away strenghtens our individualities it breaks down our togetherness.  Attitudes are adjusted to those of others and don’t work well between the two.  Retirement adjustment took about 5 years to where our personalities began to mesh in a loving and fair sync.  But extended times away seems to invade on the delicate balance of give and take to where our individualities begin to take the lead again.  It saddens me that the pressure of family responsibilities put such a long distance between us at this time of our life.